Play and storytelling as therapy
staying connected to our children by unlocking the most primal tool, play, given to every parent by nature
Children don’t just play because they have nothing else to do, they play for various reasons driven by nature. There is a split between people who believe play is something children should do alone and between those who find it is crucial, to be included in their children’s play, for their connection and development. Still, for adults it can be a very challenging process, to take off the arm-our accumulated in the mental space and be invited to play the children want us to.
Maybe every child has different needs and some of them are okay if their other needs are met and they can fill this container with other members of the community, but I have found it very interesting to be immersed in the fantasy world of children and also very helpful for the harmony of the family. Many times it surprised me how profound it was to be part of their play and how interesting it was for our relationship. Play helps bring ease to our daily experiences, even though there are times when it’s easier for me to be part of their play and times when I don’t hold the capacity. The important thing is to stay guilt-free and focus on those moments where I can. Play is also a useful tool to overcome sibling jealousy.
Trauma can be released
It is unavoidable to experience trauma, but we can help our children to release it via play. When they interact with nature, and free play they access routes in their brains that can bring healing and release accumulated negative energy. If a child is acting out or asking for attention too much, it can mean there are things to be brought up to the surface. It is these moments of “disobedience” that bring me to question things and be more present with their needs.